Girls vs Boys

As tonight’s title would imply, who trumps the field when it comes to who’s best? I am of course talking about children aged 4 – 6 (almost 7)! In certain behaviours I think they are pretty much 50/50 when it comes to things like their emerging abilities in arts and crafts, but where do the boys come out on top? And indeed, where do the girls? Tara is an amazing football player and at this age gender stereotypes don’t really apply!

They were all great as babies, that is probably excluding Thor with his screamy, almost nightmarish articulations! I remember playing opera at loud volume to settle him for his night time sleeps. John actually put his cot on my side of the bed so that I could cope with his nightly screamies! Go figure – though that was a long time ago now. His and Caleb’s developments have proved that they both still hold onto the power of pure scream, though they are specific with whatever it is that is bothering either of them, very unlike baby screams that seem to be much about anything and everything!

I’ll put an element of just being loud down to age, as Aaliyah gives as good as the boys if she is annoyed about something or other. A minus here for the girls however as Aaliyah will not convey the actual thing that is (excuse the term), pissing her off, where as the boys will immediately point fingers and cast aspersions!!!

I realise the reality of both Tara and Amritsar being from a slightly different gene pool, but they really are so very different when it comes to their general behaviour and the volume of their occasional dissatisfactions. Is there a genetic link going on here? I hope not as we are all born equal and I believe that when we die, we do so on equal terms. Some of us took more and some of us gave more! But nature reclaims us and converts our elements in much the same way.

Okay, today the boys were fighting at the dinner table. A lash out here and a lash out there. Some kicks and some shouting, but they both held it together enough to finish their food and no one was seriously hurt. Aaliyah on the other hand moved the table whilst Tara was beneath the said table, crawling into the corner space, as with the table turned, she has difficulty getting to her space at the table as it is blocked by the provisions cupboard. Aaliyah had inadvertently hit Tara in the head. Some shouting and crying later, Tara settled and Aaliyah went crazy and even screamy with apologies. Poor, dear Tara. Naughty, but repentant Aaliyah,,, They all give equally when it comes to hugs and statements of ‘I love you’ however.

So all in all, I think that the girls feel remorse a little bit more than the boys. I also think that with the boys, a little feud can certainly run the course, though it burns out very quickly. But are the girls more focused on getting their own back at a later time, opposed to just dealing with a situation in the here and now!

To be truthful, I couldn’t properly decide on who had the upper hand at this age. I had to ask Sindy, our nannies opinion! She kind of confirmed what I had rightly considered. And that was that boys bring it out into the open, they are a lot more straight forward, using a raging scream, a kick or even a punch with their sibling in order to settle a dispute. The girls on the other hand are a bit more subtle with things – a later revenge seems like a more formidable and pre-planned endgame.

Sindy’s leaving comment tonight was that with the girls, in a few years time, we ‘ain’t seen nothing yet’! Oh dear – roll on the the next stages of the human condition!!! I believe it is a bit more settled for all from the ages of 7 – 10, so a little respite for now at any rate.